People are different, yo. And that's okay!
I think a lot of judgment is caused by our need to validate our own choices. It's like this:
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Them: (happily doing whatever it is they do)
Us: Hmm. They are doing something differently than the way I do it. Since I am the standard of normal in all things, that must mean THEY are doing it incorrectly. Because it couldn't possibly be that I am doing it incorrectly. And because the whole world is black and white, it's definitely impossible that we are ALL doing it correctly, but just differently.
Them: (happily doing whatever it is they do)
Us: Man, that really pisses me off that they are doing that incorrectly. And I bet they think I'M the one who's doing it wrong. Because otherwise they'd be doing it the way I do it! Aw hell naw! How dare they think that when THEY are OBVIOUSLY the ones who are in the wrong here!?
Them: (happily doing whatever it is they do)
Us: Look at them flaunting their smug wrongness in my face! I'm gonna correct their assumption and let them know in no uncertain terms that I AM RIGHT and THEY ARE WRONG!
Them: (glancing over at the red-faced, sweaty pillar of rightness walking toward them)
Us: WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE AND WHAT IN THE H-E-DOUBLEHOCKEYSTICKS DO YOU THINK YOU'RE DOING JUDGING ME LIKE THAT?
Them: (glancing over their shoulders wondering who this escaped mental patient is talking to)
Us: Yeah, I'm talkin' to you! Don't you know that what you're doing is WRONG? Everyone knows that the way I do it is the NORMAL way, therefore you are ABNORMAL and WRONG!
Them: (glancing around for hidden cameras, certain that they are on an episode of What Would You Do?)
Us: Don't you know that you are damaging your health/your children/the economy/the state of marriage/the environment?! If you would do things the RIGHT way (like I do them), all the world's problems would be solved and I wouldn't have to deal with the ambiguity of multiple possibilities of rightness anymore!
Them: Uh, sorry? I'm just trying to walk along this path. I don't know the way. I'm just trying to find my way...
Us: Only I, the keeper of all knowledge and standard of normalcy know the one true path! If you go any other way, you will not reach your destination!
Them: Yeah, I don't think I want to go where you're going...
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It doesn't have to be this way, y'all.
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